Tips For A Better Orgasm 1

No one actually needs to rally for the wonders of an orgasm when there's enough research—as psychologist and sex therapist Mary Jo Rapini explains—that the tremor-inducing release of serotonin and endorphins can boost the immune system and decrease stress and anxiety.


But when there's still a wide "pleasure gap" to bridge today—the term describing the slim number of women who experience orgasms during sex in relation to men—the main question is how.

Below, we consulted advice from across the scientific spectrum, from medical studies to sexperts to sex therapists, on ways to enhance the female orgasm and feel connected to your partner without giving up your primal right to come.

1. Ramp up the Foreplay
A study in the journal Hormones and Behavior shows that an increases in the "love drug" oxytocin helped couples have more intense orgasms. It doesn't require any supplements for a big boost in the hormone, though, as your average cuddling, hugging, kissing, and bonding activities can do the trick. Make sure to carve out more bonding time with each other or extend your foreplay sessions before sex to enhance your sexual performance.

2. Delay Gratification
Instead of speeding toward the finish line, science says that building your way up to the brink of an orgasm then stopping—otherwise known as edging—and building yourself back up to the point of climax can encourage better, stronger orgasms.

3. Exercise, Exercise, Exercise
Sign up for a 5K race or schedule a game of tennis. Merely anticipating a competition triggers a 24 percent boost in testosterone for women, according to a study published in the journal Evolution and Human Behavior. And any increase in that hormone also drives up your libido, so consider it a win-win. Plus, exercise stimulates blood flow to the genital area, increasing desire and lifting your mood.

4. Turn Up the Heat

Prior to sex, take a hot bath, or—if you're short on time—place a warm washcloth over your vulva for a few minutes. Heat boosts blood flow to your vagina, leading to increased lubrication and sensitivity, says Hilda Hutcherson, author of Pleasure.

5. Try the Tantric Method
As tantric instructor Dawn Cartright explains, harnessing the power of breath can slow down your mind and make it hyper-sensitive to full-body sensations. Open yourself up to orgasmic joys by breathing and rocking together, then tightening your PC muscles before sex.

6. Sip a Sex Tonic
Let an ancient sex stimulant work its magic: Warm some milk, add a pinch of saffron, and drink up, says Aliza Baron Cohen, author of Sex: Rediscovering Desire Through Techniques & Therapies. Saffron, which releases its intense flavor when heated, has been considered an aphrodisiac for thousands of years. Or, take one of Amanda Chantal Bacon's cult-favorite Sex Dust formulas for a spin.

7. Recharge Your Batteries
Women who use vibrators say they have an easier time reaching orgasm during (vibrator-free) sex with a partner, according to a survey of 1,656 women conducted by the Berman Women's Wellness Center. If you're tech-friendly, try a vibrating "bullet" attachment that's discreet enough to fit in your pocket (or on your neck). Or, get him in the action with one of the many couples' vibrators out there, from the We-Vibe to the Eva.

8. Strike at the Optimal Moment
During the first two days of your cycle, your testosterone levels surge, your libido soars, and your breasts and clitoris become ultra-sensitive, says Gabrielle Lichterman, author of 28 Days: What Your Cycle Reveals about Your Love Life, Moods, and Potential. Intense orgasms may happen more easily than usual—and multiples are much more likely. Experts also suggest timing sex in the early morning when men experience their highest testosterone levels, or in the afternoon on weekends when women tend to ovulate.

"For stellar sex in a hurry, pull on a skirt and find a deserted staircase."

9. Step Up for a Quickie
For stellar sex in a hurry, pull on a skirt and find a deserted staircase, suggests Sex for Busy People and The Field Guide to F*cking author Emily Dubberley. If you're shorter than your guy, stand a step or two above him. Face him or turn toward the railing so he can enter you from behind. (Hint: Grip the rail for leverage—and don't lean over too far!)

10. Try a New Rhythm Method
Majorly elevate your odds of climaxing during sex with the Coital Alignment Technique, says Dubberley. Have your partner lie on top of you, with his pelvis directly over yours. Wrap your legs around his thighs and rock together gently. Push up and forward so that your clitoris makes contact with the base of his penis. Patience is key: Find your rhythm and stick to it until you orgasm.

HOW TO HAVE MULTIPLE ORGASMS AS A MAN: WAIT WHAT? YEP YOU READ THAT RIGHT…

How would you like to orgasm… not once… not twice… but multiple times in one session with your girl?

Heck, you can go for a couple of hours if you want.

Just imagine, that same feeling you get when you empty your nuts, 10… maybe even 15 times in one sitting. Damn!

Well, today I’m going to show you how to do that.

I’ve been practicing myself, after getting tips from a good friend of mine and it’s amazing. So I highly recommend you give it a go.

The key behind these orgasms is that you’re not actually ejaculating, you’re just tricking the body into creating those same feelings as if you were…. cool right?


HOW TO HAVE MULTIPLE ORGASMS AS A DUDE
I’d highly recommend that you use the below tips on your own first before trying this with a girl. Then once you build up your resistance levels and can control your orgasms to the point where you can choose when to blow your load, then that’s when you’re ready to try it with a girl.


1. FIND THE BLOW POINT (WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU’RE ABOUT TO EJACULATE?)
Ok, so the next time you sit down for some much needed alone time. Notice what happens the very last second before you shoot your load. Try and notice any little thing, like your leg straightens or your butt cheeks tighten, whatever… every guy is different.

Right, now the next time you try this, put all your attention on that thing you do that helps you bust a nut. So if it’s your leg straightening out, make sure you bend it… this will throw your train of thought of from cumming.

2. FOCUS ON YOUR BREATHING
The next thing you want to do is focus on your breathing, when you’re about to cum… slow your breathing down. Take nice shallow deep breathes, in through the nose and out through the mouth.

Do this to both enhance the non-ejaculatory feeling and to also keep your semen in those sacks son!


3. SQUEEZE YOUR PC MUSCLE (CHEAT BY SQUEEZING THE TIP)
This is the important part. The muscle that is going to help you stop yourself from ejaculating fully is called the Pubococcygeus muscle and needs to be exercised daily.

It’s located between the butt hole and the balls. Feel it will your index finger and contract it, so you know where it is.

You can also cheat slightly by squeezing the helmet of your penis as well as contracting the PC muscle to stop any man juice from spilling.

4. Turn Up the Heat


Prior to sex, take a hot bath, or—if you're short on time—place a warm washcloth over your vulva for a few minutes. Heat boosts blood flow to your vagina, leading to increased lubrication and sensitivity, says Hilda Hutcherson, author of Pleasure.


5. Try the Tantric Method
As tantric instructor Dawn Cartright explains, harnessing the power of breath can slow down your mind and make it hyper-sensitive to full-body sensations. Open yourself up to orgasmic joys by breathing and rocking together, then tightening your PC muscles before sex.




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